It’s been raining for the last three weeks. I mean, literally raining. The city is drenched. Kids have barely gone to school for the month. Traffic is at an all time worst. Gas is literally painful to pay. Prices of commodities have gone up significantly. The peso has seen a drop in the exchange rate.
There’s really not a lot of positive vibes one can see each week. Some friends of mine tell me they don’t even listen to the news lately. During dinner at home, and we’re able to catch the news, my mom looks at the screen and comments “isn’t there any good news anymore?”
And I couldn’t help but agree. The only good news you see are that of the actors and actresses whose lives seem to prosper, in spite of the harder economic situation in the country.
This blog post takes a respite from the negativity and hope that some thoughts here will provide a more positive outlook during desperate times.
On past relationships and the comeback attempts
When the past comes knocking, don’t answer. It has nothing new to tell you.
Remember – been there, done that. If someone has hurt you enough to let go, then you’re a masochist to want to relive that past. Moving on means loving yourself first and foremost. Someone once said, “Don’t waste your time looking back, you’re not going that way.”
Actions and reactions
When you can’t control what is happening around you, challenge yourself to control the way in which you respond.
That, is where your true power lies.
I know that it’s difficult to be scrolling down a social media article and find irresponsible, ignominious and incomprehensible comments by either trolls or die hard purveyors of fake news (no political affiliation here). Sometimes it’s more than frustrating because you know that there’s a jerk lurking out there, who needs to get a life, because he/she is too busy “commenting” on every news article!
But rudeness should not (always) beget rudeness. I’ve always believed that while it may be difficult to not comment on stupidity, sometimes it’s easier to let go.
Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy.
Work. Relations. Friendship. Love.
Respect is the underlying and operative word. When that’s gone – it’s time to leave. No one needs to get treated like shit. Even if there’s shit coming your way. Every. Fucking. Day.
The good samaritan
Be the reason someone believes in the goodness of people.
If we can only change our paradigm on how to deal with human beings who are the epitome of scum, we probably would live in a better world. But a utopian world does not exist. Because we cannot please everyone. Whatever challenges we face, we need to show respect to people even when they don’t deserve it. Respect is a reflection of your character, not theirs.