So you didn’t get the promotion. Or someone broke your heart. Wait, let me guess, you didn’t pass the exam. Sh*t, no way…the holiday was cancelled because the government shut down the island! What? You totally smashed dad’s car?!?

They’re but a few conversations we have with people and friends. How we react to the situation is a reflection of the kind of people or friend we are. Which means, you’d rather be talking to someone who’d share positive vibes rather than someone who looks at the glass of water half empty.

So here’s my ten cents worth of thoughts on people and friends;

1. Stay away from negative people. They have a problem for every solution.

You know the saying that “misery loves company”? Well, that in a nutshell are what negative people are. They’re miserable blokes. Their mission in life is to destroy other people’s happiness. Their mantra is “if I can’t be happy, so can’t you”! During a situation, instead of offering a solution, they present more problems. Stay clear from them, because you’ll end up feeling anxious and depressed after a conversation with them.

The key to identifying this kind of scum is that they are backstabbers. Like vultures that just circle around a dying carcass, once you have your back turned, they’re ready to pounce on your meat.

2. The best revenge is just moving on and getting over it.

I get it. No one deserves to be treated unjustly. And standing (or sitting) there and watching your world fall apart because the evil king has destroyed your goals and dreams with lies and false accusations isn’t going to change your life. Let me say it and say it candidly. Don’t give someone the satisfaction of watching you suffer ! Ever! It’s the worst kind of humiliation.

Karma will find their way with injustice. Remember that. And even if in your lifetime it doesn’t, don’t worry…it will.

3. Get busy loving your life

Okay. So, life’s not fair. You get thrown a watermelon your way. In the back of your mind, you want to throw a hundred durians at your opponent. But is retaliation the solution at rudeness? If you love your life, learn to walk away at the battles that don’t need to get fought. Be busy loving your life that you have no time for hate, regret or fear.

4. Declutter your “friends” list on social media. It will be the best thing you can do to yourself today.

So you have 5,000+ followers on Facebook. Who gives a f*ck?! The people in your life and your social media platforms should be a source of reducing stress, and not causing more of it. It doesn’t matter if you have one or two “likes”. Social media has become a great source of negativity. “Unfriend” if you must, to stay happy. Remember, some people can’t function without negativity because bringing down others makes them feel better.

5. Rude is the rule with negative people.

When people are rude to you, they reveal who they are, not who you are. Obviously, it’s painful because you end up asking yourself WHY. Learn not to take everything personally. Walk away.

If you surround yourself with people who don’t suck the positivity out of you, you’d have a better life! Remember, you’re only going to be as good as the people you surround yourself with. Be brave enough to let go of those who keep weighing you down. They’re not worth the keep.