When it rains, it pours. And a negative attitude at our problems is never helpful. It’s funny because a lot of us (including me) believe that life, in order to be happy, should all be peachy. The reality is, we were never promised a rose garden in our life journey.
Sadly, we let stress dominate our world because we take the negative aura as stress factors. Maureen Killoran points out that
stress is not what happens to us. It’s our response to what happens. And response is something we can choose.
It’s like looking at a glass of water as half empty, or half full.
Practicing positive self-talk can serve as a different paradigm in our lives. We don’t need to react to everything that bothers us. And here are five pointers on having a positive mindset.
Reframing our thoughts is the first step. Listen and be aware of them so that we can understand it better. One doesn’t have to make it complicated.
2. Challenge beliefs
Not all our thoughts are true. Don’t just accept what you think just because your mind wanders off there. Our thoughts don’t define us. We need to challenge ourselves by rising to the occasion of looking for truth and validating it first.
3. Choose your thoughts
By being aware of our negative thoughts we can choose to change our perspective on it and shift to a more positive one.
4. Check the environment
The environment creates a big impact on how we think and feel. For example, the workplace may suck tremendously or the home isn’t a healthy ground for understanding and love. Is your environment bringing you more negative feelings than positive ones?
5. Practice it daily
As the saying goes, when we practice it daily it becomes a habit. And positivity is a habit that is learned. When we repeat positive thoughts, we develop a gentler and kinder way of talking to ourselves more often.
(Adapted and modified from http://www.aserenepursuit.com)