What would you do if you weren’t afraid?
Fear is something everyone can relate to. A feeling so ingrained in us that we lose ourselves because of fear.
It all begins and ends in our mind and what we give power to has power over us if we allow it.
There are many reasons why we are afraid.
1. We’re afraid to fail.
Failing and failure are two different events. Failing is when things don’t go our way. Failure is when we don’t try at all to succeed. If we don’t try then we won’t succeed.
2. Worry what others think
Who cares what other people think? In this day and age where social media platforms abound, many of us look for acceptance and affirmation of our actions based on “likes” or “shares”. Falling short of a positive feedback is being unkind to oneself.
3. Being stuck in the past
We all have skeletons in our closet. People who hurt us. Unpleasant experiences. Opportunities that didn’t prosper. If we allow ourselves to be stuck in the past, we’re being unfair to ourselves. There is no direction in our lives if we keep referring to the past.
4. Afraid of what’s ahead
My mom who is now turning 81 told me that at her age, her greatest fear is death. Her mind lurks in the endless thought of what could possibly still go wrong ahead. Repetitively, a scenario of doom and distress. I remind her that fear does not stop death. It stops life.
5. Fear of the unknown
There is no such thing as a crystal ball in our lives.
A favorite author of mine Thich Nhat Hanh says “people have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.”
6. Fear of Joy
Miracles begin to happen when we give as much energy to our dreams as our fears. Life is a rollercoaster ride – we can scream out of fear of enjoy the ride. But when we learn to love, fear becomes a stranger.
When you feel fear creeping up during your times of joy, remember all things you are grateful for in your life, and allow yourself to feel the joy.