There’s quitting on drugs, caffeine, nicotine, alcohol, or sex. But no, they’re not the most difficult things to quit from. Here’s the top five:
1. Trying to please everyone
So someone wants to be Miss Congeniality. There’s always someone in the group that wants to be a people pleaser to the point that they rumor monger just to be popular. Then there’s also the one that thinks that playing goody will get all the sympathy votes. Both are wrong. There is no Miss Friendship or Mr Sympathy in the real world.
2. Fearing change
As they say, the only thing that is permanent in this world is change. And there’s really nothing wrong with change because when we are afforded multiple chances in life, we become better people!
One of the hardest decisions in life is letting go. Whether it’s guilt, anger, love, betrayal or loss – change is never easy. We fight to hold on. And we fight to let go.
3. Living in the past
Trauma makes it difficult for people to move on. Staying stuck in the past creates an atmosphere of bitterness and anger. Truth is, the past cannot be changed, forgotten, edited or erased. Once we learn to accept it, we can move on.
Let the past die. Kill it if you have to.
4. Putting yourself down
Often times we underestimate ourselves. Not because we think we’re not good enough but because people have pushed you into believing you’re not good enough. But f*ck them! People who attack your confidence and self-esteem are aware of your potential and feel you’re a threat. Don’t give in to their insecurities.
5. Overthinking
We are laden with anxiety day in and day out. The mind is a dirty playground. We anticipate a problem even when the problem does not present itself. There are various signs of overthinking: we second guess, analyze things to death, suffer from insomnia, let someone decide for you, refuse to let things go, criticize yourself a lot, feel tense, unable to turn off your brain, expect the worse…to name a few. However it appears as, overthinking is hazardous to your health.
We all need to quit on the things that are burdens of daily living.
Everyday is an opportunity to change our lives. Another chance. A new beginning.